Top Ten Resolutions For the Sexist Woman

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A new year can bring a fresh perspective. Here are a few tips and tricks for the wayward woman because, let’s face it, we can all be a little sexist sometimes.

10.  Do not buy, download, borrow, or even waste time thinking about Going Rogue by Sarah Palin.  Her words are toxic and are not meant to help humankind.

9. Avoid sexist terms when describing yourself or other women.  Sexist vocabulary begets more negative treatment toward us on the street, in the home and in the media.

8.  Do read more literature and non-fiction by women writers — from the classics like Brontë and Austen, to modern geniuses like Didion and Atwood. There is so much to learn and enjoy in their wisdom and perspectives.

7. Stop stressing over what you eat and how you influence others about food. Eat healthfully and in moderation, you don’t need to starve or stuff yourself — both can hurt your body and mind.  Balance will sate you.

6.  Read the news.  Be aware, but please stop gossiping. And, buy less celebrity magazines focused on who’s skinny and who’s not. It doesn’t matter, focusing on the superficial makes us all just a body.

5.  Stop judging other women for their choices.  Liberation gives us the freedom to do anything from piloting planes or playing point guard, to baking cakes or being a mom.

4.  Say no to posing nearly naked for magazines. Seriously, who cares if you get paid, the cost for the rest of us and the continued sexualization of women in the media is too high. Your bare ass has consequences for ours.

3.  Stand up for yourself, don’t let others make you feel like less of a person because you are a woman.  You are an equal in this world.  Live the part.

2.  Embrace your talents and support those of the women around you. There’s no need to compete, we’re in this together.

1.  Love yourself and everything that makes you a woman.

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Born to Be…What?

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Over the last couple weeks I read two very interesting books centered on the future of humankind and concerns of population control.  Both proposed these extremist views of birth, life and death in the wake of a post-apocalyptic Earth.

In the Handmaid’s Tale, by Maragaret Atwood, the United States has become a hyper-religious police state where women are stripped of their rights as citizens. They fit into one of four classes: a Martha (housemaid/cook), a Wife (who is typically upperclass, but sterile), a Handmaid (surrogate) and an Aunt (teaches Handmaids).  All women are forced to wear conservative clothes that are a uniform of their class, concealing individuality and their bodies — handmaids wear red.

In the novel, handmaids are treated as slutty servants or worse, as incubators.  They cannot have relationships of their own and if they interact with the husbands without the wives present, they are punished.  The handmaids are also stripped of their identity, being named Offred or Ofren depending on the name of the man they are contracted to at a given time — like Fred or Ren.

The other book I’m reading, many people read in high school.  Brave New World, by Alduous Huxley, has a quite different portrayal of the future. Where the Handmaid’s Tale is stripped of sex, but uses women’s bodies as a rape of rights, Huxley created a future of test tube babies altered in utero to fit into destined castes.

I found the juxtaposition fascinating.  Each narrative has their own precise delineation of class and gender, speaking to society’s economic and racial  divisions.  In Huxley’s world, people are made to look different and think separate thoughts — inferiority and superiority are trained mantras and biologically created. In Atwood’s account, they are later separated depending on their biology — fertile or not?

One thing both of these books share (aside from a commentary on contemporary culture) is the removal of family.  Huxley makes the idea of family a perverse and heathen ritual of the past, where the word “mother” makes people want to vomit.  For Atwood, families are ripped apart. Children are not allowed to be with their true mothers, the handmaids.  Family is a construct built to perpetuate the human population, not to nurture with love and foster a happy life.

The most significant thing I found in reading these books together, is how women’s rights are inherently linked to the survival of family and individuality.  Without equal rights, humankind is just as any other animal — reproducing, or in the case of Huxley’s novel, replicating for the sake of survival.

There is no real living. There is no love.  There is no humanity. Whether you force the burden of pregnancy and birth on a woman or take it away, either way you deny her rights.  Choice promotes individuality and family.

And, what is most ironic: American teens read these books when they are in high school. Yet, for them, the lesson doesn’t stick.  They don’t see the connection between the books, themselves and our world.  Where are the brave and new changes to feminist thought?

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Nothing Civil About Women’s Rights

Countless articles about the lack of women’s rights in foreign countries beg the question  — what are men afraid of? Honestly, the way Afghan women are starved for not performing properly in bed; a journalist is punished for wearing pants in Sudan; and countless women are raped by rebel forces in the Republic of Congo — is absolutely horrifying.

Why would men treat women this way if they are not afraid of them and their capabilities? If fear is not the reason why men throughout history have dominated, objectified and marginalized women — then why?  What is it about society that continues to crush women, treating them as mere objects, animals or worse…

While circumstances in the U.S. are better than many others in terms of women’s rights, we are hardly objectification-free, lacking sexism or without abuse toward women. Working class women are the biggest sufferers of sexual harassment in the service industry as Barbara Ehrenreich observed in Nickel and Dimed: On Not Getting By in America and women are made into sexual objects pretty much anywhere you see in the media, on television and in film.

Yet, what people do not realize is the limitations, sterotypes and pressures these projections of women impress upon us.

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Case in point, Chickipedia — a website dedicated to the exploitation of women in encyclopedia form — a space where women’s measurements are displayed before their faces.

Exhibit two: sex videos and pole dancing numbers by Disney stars. The list goes on and on.

What do we do about this growing problem that leads to the portrayal of women’s value as superficial sexual entertainment for men? How do we prevent the eating disorders, lack of self-esteem and tendency towards beauty over brains that comes along with this subtle attack on women’s rights?

That’s a question I’d love to answer for myself, for teens who feel lost and any women who struggle with what she sees in the mirror instead of appreciating who she is inside. I guess the first step is awareness. Let’s be aware and start to change. Let’s find our place as equals instead of this archaic space of the sexualized object. Let’s put on some pants and fight back. Any ideas?

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